Louise Borthwick Life Coach UK
I am no different to you in that I got to a stage in my life where I was asking myself, is this really what life is meant to be all about? who am I?
You see, let me be vulnerable here: At the age of 42 years old another relationship ended, I had sold another business and home because of yet another failed relationship, my children were all growing up and finding their own way in the world. I reached for alcohol and considered suicide, I felt alone and that I had failed myself and other people in my life - I hit the pit.
I was overwhelmed, sad, heartbroken, hurt, betrayed, angry and desperate. I started to think about all of the terrible events and experiences I had encountered in my life. I thought, I can not have had to experience all this for nothing, there has to be a reason. I want to know what purpose my existence is...
I started to pull myself together, I have gratitude for my children, for, without them, I fear, I would have left this world at that time, and probably many times before that too. My first grandson was born and I felt that I had to do something to change our lives and I knew it had to start with me.
I was frustrated with myself because I knew that there was an answer, I just couldn't work it out. I had always been interested in Social Psychology, in particular social behaviour. I had always been quite a counsellor in my job as a hairdresser, I had the answers for everyone else, but not me.
I wasn't scared to self-reflect and I knew my flaws, in fact like many of us, I was very harsh with myself, beating myself up all the time.
I decided that I would not stop until I got the answer to stopping the cycle that was playing out in my life.
One night, after self medicating with wine once again, crying myself to sleep, I fell asleep on the sofa. When I woke up at 3am, my mind was going ten to the dozen with words and ideas. I decided to write them down because I didn't want to forget them.
I wrote and wrote until my hands ached, as I wrote I cried, I felt a sense of relief. I fell asleep again and when I read it all back in the morning, the answers were there. I worked on my theory of recovery, and from that night I felt more and more empowered every day. I restructured my scribbles and used my academic ability to form it into a systematic programme that is now known as The Empowerment Programme, 12 week recovery course.
I retrained as a Practitioner life coach and obtained a degree in Social Psychology, so that I could deliver The Empowerment Programme. I piloted this at the domestic violence and abuse service for a year, working with service users as part of after care for thrivers of abuse. The Empowerment Programme had 100% success and survivors of abuse have gone on to break the cycles of abuse in their lives, repair and rebuild relationships with family, developed the confidence to go for well-paid jobs, start new business incentives - leaving their experiences and the residue aftermath that we are all left with, well and truly in the past where it belongs.
Even though I believe that our experiences and the knowledge we gain from them is the most valid qualification. I also knew that to have the credibility The Empowerment Programme deserved in the field of Mental and Emotional Health, I had to practice independently as a Life Coach.
In 2018 I got a BA Hons in Education, Society and Development (Social Psychology). I am an accredited level 6 Master Practitioner Life Coach and The Empowerment Programme has been accredited as a level 6 Master level coach programme with The International Authority for Professional Coaches and Mentors. (IAPC&M)
I have unlocked the secrets of becoming free, to live a life of freedom, I started to notice that people treated me differently, I have a different type of confidence, I am respected for me. My children have grown into amazing individuals living their freedom, and I know our negative cycle of behaviour has ended with me, and this is my biggest achievement yet.
Over the past 5 years I have developed and put in place The 3 core elements and 4 corner stones to The Empowerment Programme to make the process and change quicker and more permanent.
My work is my life's purpose, I help people transform their lives, support others to live their lives completely free of negative experiences. I advocate for breaking the negative cycles of behaviour and changing lives for good. This is such fulfilling work and incredibly important, not just for us but our children and the next generations to come..
“After my sessions with Louise Borthwick on The Empowerment Programme, I have experienced the biggest light-bulb moment I have ever had. Having suffered abuse in several forms throughout my life, I honestly thought I would recognise it anywhere. I was so wrong! I feel as if I've been dunked in a bucket of cold water and have woken up to smell the coffee after wading through 10 years of fog! Absolutely awesome, I am literally buzzing!!